“If you have crazy friends, you have everything you’ll ever need”
In the digital age we live in, we are more connected than ever. Facebook. Instagram. Snapchat. Twitter. They are all marketed as platforms to keep us connected no matter where we are on the globe. After I come back from travelling, I use them to stay connected to my friends that I meet abroad. However, after I couple of months I’m always struggling as to how to keep connected with these people. After all there is only so many messages you can send saying, “Hello! How are you?” But this not only happens to people we meet abroad, this happens to our friends who live in the same city as us. Life, work, family needs make it hard for us to see them besides the occasional FaceTime or coffee.
Meet Drew and Rachel. The three of us met during our first year at the British Columbia Institute of Technology. Although I hadn’t knew the two of them long, I knew that we would get along well. I was right. Although our schedules were crazy, we always would see each other during breaks or late nights at school. After we graduated, the three of travelled to Tulum in Mexico to celebrate getting through those crazy two years.
However, after we came back from that trip in July, real life kicked in. We all got awesome job’s with opposite schedules, we finally had free time to do things and go places when we weren’t working, we would chat in our group chat constantly. The summer moved on to fall and the texts in our group chat became fewer and fewer, only really picking up when one of us had exciting news to share. I left my job to go travelling, Rachel switched jobs, Drew was killing it at her’s. We were following our own paths. Time was scare, trying to organize something with the three of us was brutal, organizing something with the two of us wasn’t much better.
It had been three months since the three of us had caught up or even FaceTimed on the phone. I felt like I knew nothing about what was going on with either of them. So I made a pact to myself that I would make an effort to stay connected. Being connected didn’t just mean sliding into their’s DM’s or liking their latest Instagram picture. Being connected meant having meaningful conversations on the phone or meeting them for dinner. Although trying to match schedules is still difficult, it is something that we have to make time for. Sure social media or other things can seem more appealing in the short term, but friends are forever.